When Healing Makes Dating Feel Harder: The Emotional Mismatch After Growth

A side-by-side image of an emotionally reflective Black woman sitting at a table with an open journal and a thoughtful expression, paired with a Black man gazing into the distance in quiet contemplation. Their expressions capture the emotional solitude and strength of healing, representing the often unseen journey of emotionally mature singles navigating love after personal growth.

Healing can feel like a lonely road, especially when you’re trying to love differently in a dating pool that hasn’t done the work. You go to therapy.You do the inner work.You set boundaries.You learn to love with clarity, intention, and care. And yet, you find yourself asking:“Where are the singles who are doing the work […]

How Historical Trauma Shapes Black Love

An emotional illustration of an attractive Black couple lovingly embracing for the last time, capturing the pain of being separated during slavery - a visual reflection of how historical trauma disrupted Black love and family bonds.

This month, I invited others into a conversation we don’t talk about enough:The many ways historical trauma has shaped Black love. In honor of BIPOC Mental Health Awareness Month, we explored truths that deserve more space.As a Black woman and therapist, I learned early on – Many of us learned love in the aftermath of […]